Wednesday, April 26, 2017
The Importance of Blessing Your Children
As parents we are called to pray for our children, pray with our children, and bless our children with our mouth using scripture as a reference. God’s Word never returns void. So many times as parents we neglect these 3 things and then get discouraged when we see negative behavior or attitudes take shape in our children’s lives. We forget that our words have the power of life or death. It’s easy as parents to use words that tear down instead of build up. With the Lord’s help we can begin speaking life into our children instead of speaking death by our nagging, accusing, and negative words. I have to admit, it took some time getting used to praying out loud with my children and speaking blessings over their life. I was so used to praying alone for my children, but thankfully the Lord showed me the importance of praying with my children and speaking life-giving blessings found in scripture over my children.
Blessing your children isn’t a “name it and claim it” type of formula that is common in these last days, but is a practice that has been handed down from Abraham and is mentioned all throughout the Bible.
God commanded the priests to bless the children of Israel. Today, each father is the priest over his own home and should also bless his children.
“Ladies you are the ones that will set the spiritual temperature in your home. The husband is the Priest of the home, but you women are the keepers of the home. You're influence will create peace or strife in your house.”
Blessing - means to invoke divine favor upon, to confer or favor with talent, confer well being or prosperity upon.
“We must understand first of all, that all blessing come from the Lord.”
“Our words are powerful tools, they can hurt or heal. An old children's tale has for most of us proven itself very untrue. "Sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me." How wrong! Words have a life changing power to hurt us or heal us. When a child is constantly told he or she is no good, they cannot do anything right, these words make life long influences on the child and will be carried into adulthood effecting their entire life. This is why God has so strongly required the church to speak words of life to others. Christian's must learn the power that their words have on others, not to mention how our words even effect our own lives.”
PRO 12:18 - Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
PRO 16:24 - Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.
PRO 15:4 - The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life, but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.
PRO 18:21 - The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.
“Blessing our children communicates to our children of their importance to us and their place in the family. It also places in them an expectancy of God's power in their life. God has promised to bless those that we bless, as we speak the blessing over our children it releases the power of God in their lives and we will eventually see change in the life of the child. Blessing is more than just encouragement given to a child, it has the power to shape character and set the purpose of God in the life of the child. As we speak the blessing over the child, it assures them of the promise of God and gives them hope for their future. The blessing will also draw a family together. Where once anger and resentment were present, through the blessing, God will change and heal hearts and bring a family back together. If you have a rebellious child living out of the home, by speaking the blessing to them each time you talk with them instead of judging them and criticizing them, you will see a change in time. It will begin to mend the hurts of the past and draw the family back together.”
1CH 16:43 - Then all the people left, each for his own home, and David returned home to bless his family.
When we withhold words of blessing from our children, we are withholding love, importance and encouragement
A child who has received words of blessing over his childhood will grow into a strong adult. He will have far less insecurities in his life than a child who has not received the words of blessing. Our words must encourage our children, they must relate our love and acceptance of them. Many parents speak more criticism and rebuke to their children than reaffirming their child's good traits. If we discourage our children with our words they will build insecurities that will follow them all their lives. These words will also cause them to build a wall no longer allowing you to have a good influence on them. In other words they will just simply tune you out.
Your Children To The Lord I have counseled many parents of teenagers who cannot let go of their children. They want to dominate every area of their lives. While I believe very strongly in family discipline and the need for parents to protect their children. At a certain age, it is important to allow them to begin making some of their own decisions. We must trust the Lord to work in their lives.
GEN 48:15-16 - Then he blessed Joseph and said, "May the God before whom my fathers Abraham and Isaac walked, the God who has been my shepherd all my life to this day, the Angel who has delivered me from all harm may he bless these boys. May they be called by my name and the names of my fathers Abraham and Isaac, and may they increase greatly upon the earth."
Death and life are in the power of the tongue,
And those who love it will eat its fruit. Proverbs 18:21
How to Bless Your Children:
“When blessing your children we should use our right hand.
“Right hand” occurs 166 times in the Bible so it is no accident that the words “right hand” has significant meaning.
The right hand signifies strength.
The ancient patriarchs usually blessed their children and grandchildren with their right hand as with the case of Jacob, whose name was later changed by God to Israel, for example when “Israel stretched out his right hand and laid it on the head of Ephraim, who was the younger, and his left hand on the head of Manasseh, crossing his hands (for Manasseh was the firstborn)” (Gen 48:14).
Clearly we see that the right hand is symbolic of ruler-ship, authority, sovereignty, blessing, and strength and is significant in Scripture. We even see this in separating the sheep from the goats at the judgment as Jesus said “Before him will be gathered all the nations, and he will separate people one from another as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats. And he will place the sheep on his right, but the goats on the left” (Matt 25:32-33). Being on the right side is critical to our eternal destiny and fatal to those on the left. For all who trust in Christ, they will be placed on the right hand side of Christ because they will have imputed to them the very righteousness of the Son of God (2 Cor 5:21).”
When blessing your children lay your hands on them or hold them in your arms.
The Patriarchs always laid their hands on the individual they were blessing. Touch has always been connected to the blessing.
You can bless your children weekly (we do Friday evenings), daily, or on special occassions.
13th birthday, 16th birthday, wedding, first day of college, birthdays, graduation, baby shower.
There are no rules or laws. Just begin doing it and know that God’s Word will not return void, but will fulfill It’s purpose.
And he took them up in his arms, put his hands upon them, and blessed them.
To learn more about the history of blessing and Biblical examples:
Free download on Blessing Your Children:
The Family Blessing:
William T. Ligon, Sr. in his book "Imparting the Blessing to your Children