Mothers, don’t let anyone ever dupe you into thinking there’s anything ignoble
or disgraceful about remaining at home and raising your family. Don’t buy the
lie that you’re repressed if you’re a worker in the home instead of in the
world’s workplace. Devoting yourself fully to your role as wife and mother is
not repression; it is true liberation. Multitudes of women have bought the
world’s lie, put on a suit, picked up a briefcase, dropped their children off
for someone else to raise, and gone into the workplace, only to realize after
fifteen years that they and their children have a hollow void in their hearts.
Many such career women now say they wish they had devoted themselves to
motherhood and the home instead.
Parenting, 1998, p. 195
Family J.R. Miller Pg.65-66
But it should be understood that for every wife
the first duty is the making and keeping of her own home. Her first and best
work should be done there, and till it is well done she has no right to go
outside to take up other duties. She is to be a “worker at home.” She must look
upon her home as the one spot on earth for which she alone is responsible, and
which she must cultivate well for God if she never does anything outside. For
her Father’s business is not attending Dorcas societies and missionary meetings,
and mother’s meetings, and temperance conventions, or even teaching a
Sunday-school class, until she has made her own home all the her wisest thought
and best skill can make it. There have been wives who in their zeal for Christ’s
work outside have neglected Christ’s work inside their own doors. They have had
eyes and hearts for human need and human sorrow in the broad fields lying far
out, but neither eye nor heart for the work of love lain about their own feet.
The result has been that while they were doing angelic work in the lanes and
streets, the angels were mourning over their neglected duties within the
hallowed walls of their own homes. While they were winning a place in the hearts
of the poor or the sick or the orphan, they were losing their rightful place in
the hearts of their own household. Let it be remembered that Christ’s work in
the home is the first that he gives every wife, and that no amount of
consecrated activities in other spheres will atone in this world or the next for
neglect or failure there.
When you cook nutritious, tasty meals for your family, you are pointing them to
the One who feeds the hungry and who satisfies thirsty souls with Himself.
You’re giving them an appetite for Him.
And when you go to the time and
effort to be sure that your husband and your kids have adequate clothing that
fits, you are pointing them toward the One who clothes us with His
See, every aspect of homemaking is meant to reflect some
spiritual, eternal truth that we’re trying to picture to our world.
maintain a clean home, an orderly home, you’re creating an atmosphere where your
family can appreciate the value of being spiritually clean, cleansed from sin,
and of having lives that are spiritually ordered. You’re teaching; you’re
training not just to be clean and orderly because that is not a supreme,
ultimate eternal virtue. It’s pointing them to virtues that are supreme and
eternal. As you are homemaking what you are doing is creating a taste for our
ultimate home in heaven.
We’re talking about homes that reflect the glory of
God, the beauty of Christ, and that are havens and greenhouses and places where
life can be cultivated and where people can grow and become like Christ and
where the gospel can be manifested.
Nancy Leigh DeMoss