1. More is caught than taught.
Be what you want your children to be.
2. The rod and rebuke give wisdom, But a child left to himself brings shame to his mother. Proverbs 29:15
I actually think of the last part of this verse every time I hear complete peace and quiet in the house from my mischievous 3 year old. ;)
3. Never discipline in anger.
4. You cannot be a better mother than you are a wife.
When I read this one and the following one, it cut to the core! Lord, help me!
5. When the mother cuts down the father, the children bleed.
6. The first step in successful child training is tying the apron strings of fellowship. Work together, play together, laugh together, serve together, read together, have fun together.
7. Seek out ministry that involves all of the children.
So often we think of children being hindrances to ministry. To minister to Christ is to minister to the needy around us, which should first begin in our own family. (the widows, the shut-ins, the sick, the poor.)
8. Children need leisure time, but not in the midst of an unfinished chore.
9. Be consistent 100% of the time.
Distraction and laziness are the enemies of consistency in training children.
10. Train children to work.
Most people think more people in the home, more work, but if children are taught right it will be more people, less work because all the chores are shared. Work is not a punishment, but a GIFT from God!
11. Children will rise or fall according to your expectations of them.
12. How you speak to your children will be their inner conscience.
If you are always telling your children they never do anything right, they will always believe that. I remember reading somewhere in a book from the Duggars that whoever encourages your children the most will have their heart.
13. Law and condemnation never produce righteousness.
Only love for God and others can do this.
14. You will never disapprove your children into heart compliance, but you can smile, care, be patient, merciful, and encourage.
15. Pushing your children with criticism leads nowhere. You must lead by example.
16. Teach your children to avoid many traps of sin to ask themselves “Will Christ be glorified?” (1 Corinthians 10:31) before speaking, watching, or listening to anything.
17. Respect and honor your husband.
You cannot say you love and honor the Lord if you can't show honor and respect to your husband.
I don't always do this the way I should, but with God's help I hope to!
18. Always make negative behavior counteractive.
Reward good behavior and make sure there is always a negative consequence to negative behavior.
19. Love is spelled T-I-M-E.
Put down your phone and look your children in the eyes while speaking to them.
20. Your children will always remember the atmosphere of your home.
Is it a place of love, acceptance, forgiveness, safety, and the presence of Christ?
Sources:
God’s Word, No Greater Joy Ministries, Above Rubies-Nancy Campbell, Adrian Rogers, and probably many other parenting books.
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